Ditching School Consequences For Not Doing Homework

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Please describe the behavior:
Presenting Behavior:
Cutting/skipping class

How old is the student?
High School, multiple students

Where and when does the behavior occur?
Spikes in morning and around lunch time but can occur any time during the day

Frequency and duration of behavior?
Fairly frequent

Possible Interventions:
Logical consequences:
You probably already have many logical consequences in place, like detention and suspension for being caught cutting classes. The main emphasis of logical consequences for cutting class/lunch should be on students having to spend more or additional time in school if caught cutting. suspending a student will give the student the desired outcome, which is being in school less. This is a bad logical consequence. the penalty for cutting should be detentions after and before school, community service, cleaning rooms before and after school, doing homework/studying in detention before and after school, etc.

Seeing that cutting is a big issue, the school will need to put more effort into interventions to address it. A logical consequence that would require more effort on the staff's part would be students losing trust and freedom. This could be achieved by creating a check in/out system whereby students caught cutting class would be put on the check in/out system, having to sign a check in and check out sheet for each class. In addition, they may have to be escorted after the bell to classes. Students could be put on the system for one offense or after several. They would have to remain on the system for a certain period of time and be successful on it before regaining trust and being taken off.

If mornings are bad for cutting, perhaps a system could be set up where students caught cutting 1st hour or not coming to 1st hour would be required to check-in in the office in the morning otherwise their parent is called. If they continued to cut 1st hour, they would be required to be escorted to their 1st hour by their parent or guardian. If they continued to cut first hour and the parent did not follow through, then for every 1st hour they missed, they would have to stay after school to make up that hour, doing homework for an hour in a detention.

Something similar could be done for lunch time as well, if that is a time when cutting spikes. Students caught cutting lunch would be required to sign in at lunch time and sign out. Their parent would be called if they did not sign in at lunch. If they continued to skip lunch, parent would have to escort them to lunch. If that failed, they would have to make the time up either before or after school in study/homework detention.

Another logical consequence could be set up with local police authorities. Coordinating with the local police, you could have them keeping a keen eye out for class cutters and collect names of any students they found cutting. These names would be sent to the school admin thru email or something easy. These students would get detentions and be put on the sign in/out system and have parents notified. If possible, getting the local court or a willing judge to participate could be helpful to instill some fear and seriousness. A judge or court authority could perhaps drop by the school once a month to speak with the students caught cutting, assigning them community service and requiring them to give proof it was served. Or the judge or court authority could come in once a month to speak to the cutting students, requiring them to show proof they attended school detentions. If they did not, then perhaps the judge/authority would assign community service or something else. If a judge or court authority were involved in this manner and assigned community service, I would suggest that they assign it on Saturday mornings. I think students would hate this the most and want to avoid this the most.

Saturday school is another idea for class cutters. If caught, they are assigned a 3 hour saturday school detention. They bring work and have to work Saturday morning in school. Students would get one Saturday school detention for every cutting offense. If they got caught cutting 3 times in one week, then they would receive Saturday Detentions for the next 3 Saturdays. Parents would be notified and be required to escort the student into the school on those Saturdays and sign them in, then pick them up and sign them out. If you got a judge or court authority involved, they could also assign Saturday Detentions and send some formal looking letter to parents to put fear in everyone.

If you have a school/police liaison, you could keep a record of students that seem to be cutting more frequently and that liaison would do home visits to speak to the student and parent. If you were to do any of the ideas above, they could reinforce that as well.

Natural Consequences:
It can be helpful to have class content that is more important and essential presented during times when cutting seems to spike. For example, if students seem to be cutting the first half of a class, then having teachers present material that students need to know for tests, quizzes, and finals can be a good motivator to show up. If that material were only presented at those times, students may be more likely to attend in order to get the material. The material could be in the form of worksheets, lecture, review sheets, etc. Additionally, frequent quizzes and/or extra credit could be given at these times as well. the natural consequence of skipping at these times would be bad grades, being unprepared, etc.

Positive Incentives/Motivators:
Based on attendance records, you could implement a system of rewards or incentives. For example, in the morning, students with good attendance would get to bring in food to first hour to eat or get to chew gum, etc (not provided by the school, but stuff they bringing from home). Teachers could easily look at attendance to see who should and should not be receiving the incentive. Another good first hour incentive would be students with good attendance could listen to their ipods while working or they could receive the last 5 minutes of class to talk to a friend or do something fun, like go on the computer or use a laptop they bring.

At lunch, students with good attendance could have access to a special food concession counter where there are highly desirable snacks and items. You might have to do a survey to see what the students consider highly desirable or very special. Students who had been cutting would not get to use this concession and would be required to have one month of good attendance before being able to do so.

Also at lunch, students with good attendance could be automatically entered into a daily raffle for a free lunch or free candy bar, etc. If students were caught cutting, they would not be entered into the raffle for 2 weeks or something.

A similar incentive system could be used for 1st hour. Additionally, other incentives could include a special announcement, activity, etc at the times when cutting spikes. For example, in 1st hour, if cutting spiked, there could be a daily "silly" discussion time that would last 5 minutes or so but be randomly held during 1st hour some time. each day, there would be an announcement over the PA from the office saying what the topic of the "silly" discussion would be. The teacher of each class would then stop and have this discussion with the class. The "silly" part would mean that it is a funny, odd, ridiculous, etc, topic, like who would win in a fight, a gorilla or a tiger? or what would Snooki be doing if she wasn't famous? or If you had "the force" from Star Wars, what would you use it for today at lunch? It would be something that would get kids talking. Those kids that skip could be incentivzed to attend because they get a kick out of what they hear.

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Problems at School? How to Handle the Top 4 Issues

By Carole Banks

At some point as a parent, you will likely be faced with the dreaded email from your child’s teacher telling you that your kid has crossed the line and that you need to come in for another conference—or the principal will call to tell you that your teen has missed the last week of school altogether, unbeknownst to you.

Leave discipline for acting out at school to school officials—don’t punish your child twice.

Maybe you’ve discovered that your child’s grades have plunged from acceptable to barely passing. What’s a parent to do? Carole Banks, MSW addresses the top four school emergencies parents struggle with the most.

1. Acting out in school

When your child acts out in school, it can be worrisome, frustrating and embarrassing. On top of the actual misbehavior, you fear that he’ll make a bad name for himself—that his reputation as a troublemaker will follow him from grade to grade. You may also feel judged—and blamed—by teachers and other parents for what your child does at school.

Some kids act out when they’re feeling left out or left behind.  Make sure that your child is capable of doing the class work he is being asked to do, for example. Being behind (or ahead of) the class can create boredom, frustration, and anxiety—which may lead some kids to act out verbally or physically.

I want to stress that for the most part, you should not give consequences for school misbehavior at home, unless your child is damaging school property or hurting others physically. That’s because punishing your child at home is not going to give him the skills he needs to behave more appropriately. In some cases, letting the school hold your child accountable is enough, but in chronic or severe acting-out situations, it will be important to work with the school to get of what is going on. You may then need to work with some local supports to address the behavior.

But for the most part, leave discipline for acting out at school to school officials—don’t punish your child twice.  Understand that in this case, giving consequences is far less important than figuring out what your child needs to do differently the next time he wants to act out. In other words, if you say, “You have to stay in your room because you acted out in school today,” you’re not addressing the behavior and it will not help your child because you’re not teaching him anything—except how to do time.  Sometimes parents assume that their kids will figure out things on their own, but if you’re dealing with a chronic issue, you have to face facts: your child has not figured it out by himself and he is not likely to do so.  You need to help him. So talk to the teacher—that’s your best first step. Take it from there. You need a sense of why he’s acting out and what’s happening in order to know how you can help your child change.

And pay close attention to what your child is saying at home; he should know that all experiences are okay to share. A word of caution: One important lesson James Lehman teaches us is to support the school authorities in front of your child. If your child hears your criticism of school officials and his teachers, he is likely to be disrespectful to them in class—and also to you, later on down the line.

2. Dropping Grades

If your child’s grades are dropping, rule number one is to become an investigator. In other words, really find out what’s going on with your child. Is he having problems at home or with other kids at school? Is he having a tough time adjusting to middle school or high school? Are his study habits poor—and can you work on that together? For some kids, learning disabilities and medical problems may play a role. And for still others, drug and alcohol use may be the cause of falling grades. The main thing for you to do is find out the “why” and then come up with a plan to help your child.  Here are some steps you can take immediately:

  • Meet with your child’s teacher: Call your child’s teacher and ask for a meeting.  Tell her what you are seeing at home—and then ask what she has observed in the classroom. Ask her for any ideas she might have to help your child get back on track.
  • Set up more structure at home. A common problem for many kids is a lack of structure in their after school schedule.  Make sure sports or other clubs do not come first, with homework being fit in at the end of the day (when your child is exhausted).  This is not a good lesson to teach your child because it gives them the message that play comes before work—and is therefore more important than work. Clubs or sports should not come before school work and family time for your child.  The bottom line is that schoolwork has to be prioritized, and a structure has to be set up so it isn’t squeezed in at the last minute.
  • Be realistic in your goals: When you structure your child’s study time to help him bring his grades back to an acceptable level, be realistic in your goals. Remember, it took time for your child to get behind, so you need to allow time for him to catch up.   Get actively involved in your child’s homework by reviewing it and helping with study strategies. I also recommend that you try to be present during study time. I know that many parents work and can’t be at home with their children after school. As a working parent and grandparent myself, I completely understand and sympathize with that situation. If you or your spouse can’t be there, try to get your child into in an after school program or ask another trusted adult to be there with them.
  • Don’t restrict your child from privileges until his grades improve. Understand that restricting your child from all of his privileges until he brings his grades up usually backfires. In effect, you end up taking away something that might actually motivate your child to improve. Instead, I recommend that you require your child to study for a certain amount of time each day to earn those extras that night.
  • Talk to your child about what’s going on.  Have a frank conversation with your child about his grades. Say, “Look, I’ve been letting you manage your homework on your own, but it’s not working. Now we’re going to set up a study time every day where I supervise your work. We can talk about not doing that once your grades get back up where they need to belong. But in the meantime, we have to seriously set aside some time to work on this.”

And remember to ask your child about his day and show that you are interested; ask questions that require a longer answer than “yes” or “no.” On the Support Line, I’ve found that when parents really make a consistent effort to keep up with their kids, they are seldom caught unawares when it comes to dropping grades or poor school performance.

3. “I hate my teacher!”

Every so often, your child will have a teacher with whom he just can’t seem to get along. Sometimes it’s a simple personality conflict; other times, your child is having difficulty responding to authority. I think that the very first thing to do for your child in this situation is validate how he feels. Don’t agree with him and say, “Yeah, you’re right; your teacher is a jerk.” When you undermine the teacher’s authority, you are giving your child permission to disrespect her. On the other hand, you should allow your child to share with you what it’s like in class. Don’t tell him he’s wrong or that he shouldn’t feel a certain way. Once your child has been heard, he’ll be more receptive to hearing your ideas about what he can do to make the situation better.

If your child is old enough, he has to learn to accept the fact that certain teachers require things that he might not agree with. It’s a fact of life that not every teacher is able to give your child what he would like to have. It’s a fact of life that some teachers are quite strict; they’re not warm and fuzzy. As a parent, you definitely would not want to ask them to do their job differently. Instead, work on helping your child. Say something like, “You know, you’re going to meet a lot of people in life, and you have to learn how to get along with them. Even though this teacher isn’t your favorite, part of your job this year is to get through it, be respectful and do your best. I wonder how we can figure out how to do that?” (There’s nothing wrong with asking the teacher for some ideas, as well.)

If the teacher does seem to be at fault, meet with him or her and share what your child’s experience has been. You will want to try to find some middle ground if at all possible. You might also want to bring in another administrator or official, like the school social worker, to this meeting. This will keep things civil and give you some support should you need it later.

4. Skipping school

If your child is skipping school—either playing sick or skipping out of classes—again, you first need to investigate and find out why. Is your child failing, being bullied, under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or does he have physical problems? Some kids develop anxiety around going to school; they can have stomach aches or headaches as a result. Younger kids might cling to parents and cry. A lot of kids will say they’re sick in order to avoid school because they have anxiety about it. If there’s an anxiety issue at play, a visit to your child’s pediatrician to determine whether counseling is in order might be your best course of action. A skilled counselor can gently get your child over the hump and teach them ways of coping with their nervousness around school. So the reason why your child is missing school chronically needs to be understood so it can be resolved.  For example, if your child is being bullied, you will need to work with the school to make sure your child is protected and that it stops.

It’s no secret that failing to attend school can lead your child or teen to become involved in risky behaviors, especially if he is not supervised consistently at home. If your child skips school chronically, you may have to involve community services and ask them to address the underlying reasons for school truancy. The juvenile justice system does not like the idea of kids skipping school and loitering around town, so there may be hope there. You might call up your local police department and say, “I can’t get my child to go to school. Are there any resources available in this community to help me get him back on track?”

Understand that if your child is chronically skipping school, it’s usually the result of a problem that has built up for quite some time. Often it’s the end of a long string of problems, rather than the beginning. For this reason, I believe this is an issue that’s important to nip in the bud at an early stage. So when your child’s grades start dropping or he’s coming home moody and sad, intervene then. Keep the communication open and always stay interested in what’s happened to your child from day to day—it will pay off in the end, I promise you.

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